The fact that alcoholism, drug addiction can be regarded as a disease of individuals, families and society.

Once the manifestations of physical and psychological dependence are removed, once the attraction to psychoactive substances is also removed, it is necessary to treat the emotional sphere of an addict, so a patient would feel better clean then when using drugs and alcohol.

Alcoholism. Addiction. Chemical dependency syndrome. These words connected with the name of a son or a daughter cause a real heartache and a chilling fear. How many lives the disease claimed. How many souls it kidnapped. Those who have stopped using substances, who have escaped from the suffocating embrace of death and horror, remember that time as a nightmare. Why are parents not able to help children cope with the disease? Why were all efforts in vain? How not to repeat their mistakes?

To avoid danger, you need to identify it. However, how can you see, touch or weigh chemical dependency? At first glance, it seems that this problem is abstract. Where is it, the disease? In the heart or in the mind? Moreover, maybe some disease has the chemical formula?

We see this disease as a monster with three legs. Monster, invisible at first glance, that settles in the human soul, able to hold only on three backups. It is enough to knock down any of the three backups and the dependency syndrome will collapse. If the parents want it to happen as quickly as possible and less painful for the addict, it is necessary to deprive the disease of two of its backups.

  • The First pillar of the disease is in the patient himself.

This is a great substance dependence syndrome consisting of physical and psychological addiction.

  • The second pillar of the disease is the society we live in.

It is not always easy to lead a healthy way of life, with all those harsh, sometimes wolf, relationships between people. Therefore, alcoholism and drug abuse belong to the group of social illnesses. Their prevalence in society is determined by the direction and activities of social policy.

  • The third pillar is the micro society – the family of an addict.

The problem lies in the persistence of parents to pursue their false views and erroneous beliefs, due to which the disease nests in their family, settles in their son’s soul and progresses rapidly.

To destroy the first pillar, it is necessary to conduct the treatment of a vast addiction syndrome. In mild cases it is a one-time intervention, and in severe cases it is a long, complicated and expensive procedure, that consists of several stages. The first stage is to remove the physical manifestations of dependence that can be done only in a hospital, because substance abuse takes a massive medication intervention. The next stage is aimed at the relief of psychological dependence. Only a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist can cope with this problem. However, the course of treatment for a dependency syndrome does not end here. Once the manifestations of physical and psychological dependence are removed, once the attraction to psychoactive substances is also removed, it is necessary to treat the emotional sphere of an addict, so a patient would feel better clean then when using drugs and alcohol. After medical steps social and psychological rehabilitation follows.

Thus, the first pillar is knocked down. We agree that this is a difficult, cumbersome and sometimes a very long process. Is it possible to make it easier and more efficient? Yes, it is possible. If to knock down the second pillar – the macro and micro society, if to change the relationships within the family or in the surrounding society – it is possible to simplify and reduce the cost of the treatment.

Not every parent can afford to change the surrounding of an addict. You have to be extremely rich, strong-willed or influential person to do this. But, theoretically, such a possibility exists. For example, parents can change the addict’s citizenship. Or if the father is a criminal, or a police chief, or an authority in a "provincial" city, he may

make local drug dealers avoid his son or daughter.  Or finally, you can hide in a jungle and wait until the government of your country starts to do its job and provides honest and good social policy. However, to most parents these options are not real and very close to science fiction.

Thus, there is still one pillar of the disease left - it is the sick family of an addict and the erroneous reaction of parents to the disease manifestations. Imagine that for the healing of an addict it is enough for parents to change themselves, their views on the issue of family relationships, their behavior and their actions. Yes, yes! It's really that simple! The first reaction of parents to such a proposal is rather emotional. They hope and immediately agree to follow all the recommendations of the doctor. They solemnly promise and swear that they would do what the doctor says, that they would do everything possible for the salvation of their son. And this attitude is maintained until the recommendations are announced ...

The hope for success is immediately quenched. Without trying, they refuse to act according to the proposed plan. They violate their oaths and promises, hiding behind excuses like: "We've tried it all," or "I feel sorry for him," or "I'm afraid of him," or "It does not help," or "If I do it, he may die". And yet again, the parents of an addict are disappointed with the treatment, not even having started it. But the parents’ statement that they "have tried it all" does not hold water. They certainly tried to do something, but not everything, in other circumstances, and without the help of a doctor. In this case they acted impulsively and inconsistent.

Parents that are afraid of the aggressive reaction of their addict must imagine that the disease progresses rapidly and if they do not carry the recommendations within a year or two they will see a truly bestial appearance of the disease.

How can they know that the recommendations of the doctor will not help if they never fulfilled them up to the end?

In the following chapters, we will undertake to prove that saving the life of an addict is really in the hands of parents who have to overcome codependency and overcome the addiction in themselves.